Wednesday, January 11, 2017

Success: The part they don't tell you about

We all see the successful people, the one's that we put on a pedestal. We know they've worked hard to get where they are today...But we're all guilty of glorifying success, often times overlooking that it's lonely at the top.

I'm just as guilty as the next guy. Pursue your dreams and make them happen, no matter what it takes. Will there be sacrifice? Hell yes, but will it be worth it? Absolutely.  Keep your eyes on the prize. You know? The unicorns and rainbows of success?? 'Cause once we get there it will be easy, right?You'll have time and money, and with those, well you can do whatever you want!! Pssh.

The truth is that is the glorified version. What's reality is, the more successful you become- The more Happy, more wealthy- healthier, more fit you get...the more the average joe begins to hate you.

We're all guilty of it, even in a lame example such as the rich guy rolling up to the restaurant in the Lambo.  He gets out of his car and 99% of the population already forms and opinion about him. Maybe they don't say it, but they think it:
  • I bet that guys a real asshole.
  • He must be compensating for the fact that he hates his life.
  • He was born into that money.
Think about it. When was the last time you saw someone in a sporty car and didn't assume something about them? "He must have rich parents." "She must be a total b---"  Blah, blah, blah.

Oh and the same goes for HEALTH

       Take the once 330 lb. overweight man I met this weekend. He's been working hard, eating healthy, working out, and losing weight the right way. 10 lbs, 20, then 30. Everyone is singing his praise. He learns to fall in love with the lifestyle and it becomes a part of who he is. Not an over the top part, but he commits and hour a day to his health. As his weight continues to drop, his muscle increases. He is down to 215 lbs. today. Looks amazing. Muscular, fit, happy, and healthy. What does he hear from most of his close friends and family these days?   "Jesse, you're getting too skinny, you look sick. You really need to gain some weight."

He wonders to himself. how can they say stuff like that?

He gets a first hand observation at how mediocrity HATES excellence.

The raw truth is that the average person will be a hater if you're above average.  If you're amazing? Look out! If you skip watching tv and grow yourself, you're a weirdo in this world. Why is that?

Three reasons:

#1. You remind them that they gave up- they caved to fear.

It's like running into a friend at your 10 year high school reunion. You've settled for the "get an education, a decent job, and live the American dream," and she is a successful entrepreneur traveling the world and living the life. She wakes up to do something she loves everyday and you? Well, you don't. So rather than feel inspired, you feel resentful. You make excuses. Because you realize you have a dream too, but you were too afraid to pursue it.  So you hate on that person. You give your spouse all the reasons why it was easy for her to make it happen "...because XYZ" but you couldn't "...because of all kinds of responsibilities" that you try to justify in your mind.
But it bugs ya. And deep down you're mad. Pissed off. Mostly at yourself. Why did you ever give up on that dream?

#2. It reminds them that Yes, they still have a dream, but aren't willing to HUSTLE to make it happen.

Back to the example of health. Many people might support you at first, but once you start killing it, they envy you, they hate you.

"She lives at the gym."
"He's a meat head,"
"She only cares about the way she looks."

You've finally lost that 20 lbs you've been working hard for and are actually comfortable at the beach with your shirt off. But your beer-bellied buddies are hating on you for taking it off. "Don't you have a life? I feel like all you do is workout now!"

It's not true. You only workout an hour a day, 6 days a week. You eat pretty healthy, but love a good cheeseburger and fries on the weekend. And donuts, well, you know how to put 'em down LOL.

But it's not the truth that matters. It's the story that others tell themselves to rationalize mediocrity and inadequacy.

#3- It reminds People that Being Average isn't so Great- (and how little they're doing to change that).

Bottom line is that they are feeling unfilled. They are just going through the motions. In that pit called the comfort zone.  This is the highest level of dissatisfaction. It kind of makes ya go... "Well, shit, you mean this could be my life too, why did I settle?"

We've all been there at one point or another. But the difference between the successful person and the average joe is that the successful person does what the average guy isn't willing to do to get what he wants.

They both see the problem and feel the pain.  But only one takes action. Day by day. Month after month.

So what do you do if you've got haters?

Eff them! Seriously!!

Inspire people if you can. Continue to show those willing how it's possible for them too. Give them hope and a roadmap to the top, but if they aren't willing to take action, well.... be compassionate, and thank them for the motivation to keep going.

People will dislike you no matter what, so why not have them hate you for making a difference?!?

For making an impact?

And for living a life that's so inspiring that people can't help but talk about it?

Head down, grind on friends!

1 comment:

  1. Everyone tries to be a successful person in his or her life plus I don't think they have any secrets about this. But still you have shared some very useful tips for people and this is great